by: Melissa Seifert




Over the past 20 years the face of dating has gone through some noticeable changes. Traditional methods of finding a date would be to rely on friends to play matchmaker or to attend bars, various different social events and parties. We now rely on internet service providers to open the doors for romance. Whether we like it or not, the internet has changed our lives especially in the way we date and meet people.


Men and women have moved their search for love to the internet simply because it is the most convenient in terms of time and money. However, along with this convenience also comes risk. Sure it takes the pressure off witty meaningful conversation, but how fun is that? And how do you know if the person who you are speaking with via “text messaging” actually looks like their picture or has all the great characteristics that they say they do? You can’t read their body language to determine if they are genuine, dull or most importantly how they flirt, which is primarily the most important interaction you share with someone you are interested in.


This is why in our striving to make things better, there is now a combination of the traditional meets cutting edge. It’s called Speed Dating; this concept takes the demand of our fast paced society and still gives you the opportunity to meet someone face to face. It’s a very good way of meeting a large number of people in a fun environment and in a condensed period of time. Speed dating may be the new way to meet but after the first date, you must use traditional dating methods to make sure that your relationship grows.


Attending Singles parties in the past was deemed as an act of disparity but now they are becoming less and less unconventional. These parties are growing in popularity simply because we like to connect with people. Nothing beats a cheerful conversation and there is no better way of learning about someone than looking them in the eye and asking them a question.


The one mistake people make is that they want perfect…and they want it fast. The only way to find your perfect fit is to take the time and put your self out there as much as possible. Many people will go to a bar and stand around waiting to be approached, or take in enough liquid courage so that they can do the approaching…. bit of a hint…no one finds drunken people attractive.


Singles parties and speed dating events are for single people that are sick of standing around bars getting no where and for those who want to get to know a person face to face. Every person who comes out to a Single in the City event is there for the same reason, to meet new people for friendship or perhaps a future relationship. At these events you have eliminated 3 potential risks: Are they single? Are they looking to have a conversation? And Are they open to meeting me? It is not to say that you NEED to come to these events to meet someone, it is just simply the smartest way of doing so.


Singleinthecity.ca is a leading Singles Organization that provides Speed dating, Singles Events and Matchmaking in Toronto and neighbouring cities in Southern Ontario. Visit www.singleinthecity.ca

About The Author Melissa is the co-owner of Single in the City. She has 3 years experience in bringing singles together through singles events and personal matchmaking. melissa@singleinthecity.ca